There are many good reasons for seeing an experienced Couple’s Counsellor. You might feel that your relationship is in crisis: you might have grown apart as a couple, might have frequent arguments or there might even have been infidelity. Other couples might not be in crisis, but feel that something is missing, that they would like to deepen their relationship and become more emotionally/physically intimate.
“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke (Letters to a Young Poet)
In many ways, I will follow your lead, finding a tailor-made approach to aim to meet the needs specific to the Two of You. Some couples have a real need to talk about wounds from the past, others want to work on their communication skills so they can relate again. Deep down, for most people it is not the greatest need in a relationship to feel loved, but to feel appreciated, understood – and thus safe. Only when we feel safe in our relationships we can freely, joyfully love – and receive the love from our partner.
Whichever needs we will identify together, I will aim to teach you ways of listening to each other more deeply, so that you will both feel understood, both emotionally and factually. From this, then, greater emotional safety occurs and Love can begin to flow again.
Equally, some couples may choose to come to couple’s counselling to find a way to break up amicably – especially where children are involved.
Here, too, relationship counselling may be of great value: having a third party with you to find a safe and contained atmosphere in which to come to positive solutions for the good of all involved.
My approach to couple’s counselling is holistic, we will together look at influences and stressors in your field, which impact your relationship, as well as your relationship patterns. I have a special interest in Imago Couple’s Counselling, which focuses on heart-felt, authentic and loving dialogue. Where needed, I combine with techniques from other approaches to suit your specific needs as a couple.
If you would like to find out more about my approach to relationship counselling, please see my Couples Counselling UK-webpage.
Some couples prefer to have sessions which are longer than the usual 50 minutes, so that together we can get deeper and faster into the process. If you wish, we can try to arrange this. You might just want to talk more, or you might want to be taught new communication skills and to work on specific exercises to improve your relationship. Longer sessions are charged pro rata.
Needless to say, both straight and gay couples and couples from all creeds are welcome – all you need is an open mind, a good heart – and the willingness to work.
If you have any questions about my approach to relationship counselling or wish to book a session, please feel free to contact me.
Counselling Riviera provides Couple‘s Counselling for the French Riviera, Nice, Cannes, Alpes Maritimes and Monaco as well as by Skype world-wide.